My Struggle between Straight Hair and curly Hair

A few days ago I finally took my graduation photos. And I was struggling with the decision whether or not I wanted my hair to be curly or straightened.

I have a love hate relationship with my hair [and I think that is a story on its own]. So for me to make the decision how I wanted to have my hair was a big one because they’re my only graduation photos

I’m so used to straightening my hair for big occasions; birthdays, christmas, graduation, weddings, funerals. There was just something about straight hair that made me feel more confident, pretty and put together. It felt like that was the only time that people complimented me.

But I haven’t straightened my hair since July 23rd 2019. And honestly I didn’t want to.

Last year I decided to start taking care of my curly hair and learning to love it. Its been a lot of trial and error and honestly, its an on-going relationship. It makes me feel more of myself; quirky, crazy and weird.

But sometimes it doesn’t co-operate and I feel ugly with my curly hair.

And I didn’t have that many options to choose from. My hair isn’t naturally straight and I don’t want to damage it with chemicals or heat. I don’t wear braids, weaves or extensions. I don’t even wear make up.

So it was a struggle for me to decide what to do. Should I go with the put together, more confident look, or the untamed quirky girl.

And I decided to go with what makes me me.

I learned today from my mom that my grandmother questioned why I chose to have my hair curly. That I didn’t straighten my hair. And hearing that comment hurt even though its not the first time my family has said things like that.

I think I made the right choice in the end to have my hair curly. I got a sneak peak of the photos and they looked good. I will share them soon when I get the final copy.