I may not be the type of person to give up easily, but this was the message I sent to someone tonight:
So I’ve thought about this a lot over the past days and I don’t see myself being a part of club name for the rest of the school year. I am not the type of person who quits or gives up but with a full course load and a volunteer position, I am trying to be sane and not be burnt out. Plus I am not able to come to the meetings (both last term and this term), which is no one’s fault. My schedule is always weird. Hope you can understand.
Once again I’m really sorry for quitting, but I’m hoping that everything works out with future events for the rest of the term.
Basically, tonight I decided to quit being an executive member of a club at my school. I do not regret that decision and, neither do I think they give a fuck about that. Its been something that I have been thinking about for a while, and it felt right. I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulder by sending that message.
One of the tips you hear about being in university or college is to join clubs and organizations. Its meant to help you grow, make friends, network and add a bit of experience on your resume. And I agree with that. I have had some good experiences and met my first uni friend through a club, and we are still good friends today.
But this club was not for me. And too be honest I regret not realizing this sooner. I wish I trusted my gut and never joined from the beginning, or at least not have stayed for another year
Don’t worry, nothing bad happened. its just that it seemed like the perfect opportunity on paper, but reality it wasn’t. It felt very cliquey because most of the execs were friends and from the “elite” business school. It felt like they were holding the positions to have on their resume, because every that club was a chapter of a well known organization. It felt like all they cared about was the big networking event with a big four firm.
I have never met any of the members and I didn’t see the point in being a part of this club when I felt like an outcast. I couldn’t attend any meetings because my classes took place when they happened and I was not going to miss my lecture for that. And I don’t blame anyone for that.
Funny thing is that when they had their first official meeting with all members, discussing plans and taking head shots, they forgot to include me. Not once, but twice. It happened, two years in a row, with two different sets of members and different co-presidents.
I decided to quit because it was the right thing for me. I did not see the point in pretending to give a fuck anymore. I quit because I didn’t want to be a part of something where I didn’t belong. I quit because I was unhappy and I could have spent that time and energy doing something else. And I do not regret my decision to quit
If you are in a similar situation, I am not going to tell you whether or not you should quit or give up. That is your decision to make. I just wanted to tell you my story and why I decided to quit.
For the sake of privacy, I did not mention the name of the club, but I obviously mentioned it in the message. Its not like they know about my blog, but if they somehow find, well I will thank them for the content of this post. Also, I do not place blame on anyone for scheduling and miscommunications, it happens.